Here’s a thought: In America, 50% of marriages end up in divorce.
That’s a failing grade – an ‘F’ in academics.
But beyond being just a number, what it really means is roughly half of American families are split apart. Kids get shuttled back and forth between homes, and have to endure tricky dynamics with the sudden introduction of new siblings and stepparents.
Of course, there are many situations where divorce is warranted. However, with the somewhat jarring 50% failure rate, isn’t it interesting that we’re not taught more about relationships?
Like… we’re just expected to know how to be “good” at them, even after proving time and time again we’re not?
Then there’s added confusion, courtesy of fairytales and Hollywood. You’d think by now someone would have realized: when it comes to relationships (through no fault of our own) many of us have no idea what we’re doing.
Enter, Dr. John Gottman.
The Gottman Method
For over 50 years now, Dr. Gottman has dedicated his life to researching relationships. His work has exposed him to thousands of couples.
Renowned world-wide for his breakthrough work on marriage stability and divorce prediction, the Gottman Method is one of the most sought-after couples counseling approaches, probably because it leads to one of the highest rates of marriage success.
The Gottman Method offers a proactive approach; paving the way to reestablishing trust and reuniting as a couple.
The framework of his method covers the greatest predictors of divorce – and how to eliminate them from the relationship dynamic. Replacing them with healthy strategies for managing conflict, communicating, restoring intimacy, and creating a shared future together.
At the Relationship Therapy Center, we’ve seen the positive impact of this approach, and thus strive to ensure our therapists are all certified in the Gottman Method.
We mentor all of our clinicians who take the level 2 or 3 training with the Gottman Institute, so they are fully trained and ready to help couples.
If you’re looking for couples counseling in Fair Oaks or Roseville, you probably want a protocol that actually works. The Gottman Method is effective, and it’s backed by a ton of research.
Why Couples Benefit from the Gottman Method
With over a half-century spent in the relationship trenches, Dr. Gottman has likely seen it all – including many similarities that lead to breakups and divorce.
He’s taken these similarities – the destructive patterns he’s seen over and over in relationships, and he’s found the antidote. He gives both therapists and the couples themselves a framework to work through conflict and past hurt. This framework helps guide and inform the sessions. Rather than just go round and round in circles ruminating over past transgressions, couples are able to heal from hurt, and move beyond it. To a more positive, proactive, united place.
As Dr. Gottman says, “Although you may feel your situation is unique, we have found that all marital conflicts fall into two categories: Either they can be resolved, or they are perpetual, which means they will be part of your lives forever, in some form or another.” Gottman estimates that 69% of relationship problems he encounters are perpetual, and those are the ones that Gottman therapists focus on primarily in session.
Couples who choose a therapist familiar with Gottman and his work are usually empowered by the experience. They learn how to identify, connect with, and communicate their needs. They learn how to hear their partner. Walls that have become taller and taller over the years – to the point where they’re almost insurmountable, impossible to scale – crumble.
It’s a shame really that this isn’t taught in school.
If your relationship is on the brink, ignoring the problems will only make things worse. The Relationship Therapy Center is here to help. We offer couple’s counseling in Roseville and Fair Oaks, and would love to share this powerful process with you.
Begin Couples Counseling in the Sacramento Area:
If you are ready to learn how to deal with the problems in your relationship, the therapists at The Relationship Therapy Center in Fair Oaks, CA and Roseville, CA can help! Our therapists are ready to support you and your partner in your journey towards creating a healthy and happy relationship. To begin marriage counseling in Roseville, CA area, or marriage counseling in Fair Oaks, please follow these three simple steps:
- Contact our counseling office to get more information about couples counseling and to schedule a free consultation,
- Make an appointment with one of our Gottman Method trained therapists,
- Find support and healing in your relationship!
Other Services offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:
In addition to couples counseling, Our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. Our couples counseling services include: Counseling after infidelity, sex therapy, co-parent counseling, family therapy, divorce counseling, couples therapy retreats, and premarital counseling. Our individual therapy services include, anxiety treatment, trauma therapy, teen therapy, therapy for children, codependency counseling, depression treatment, and individual relationship counseling. We also offer online counseling to California residents. Please contact our office to learn more about the many ways we can help you and your loved ones.