- I don’t feel connected to my partner or spouse.
- My partner misunderstands me.
- He/she undervalues my role in our relationship.
- My spouse and I are always fighting about the same things over and over again.
- My partner had an affair and I need help coping with the fallout.
- It feels like we aren’t on the same page and they don’t care about my feelings anymore.
Having problems in a relationship is normal. If you aren’t arguing with each other at all you might actually be really disconnected. Couples who have successful relationships have to learn to navigate marriage issues. They know how to put problems in perspective. They understand that the way to work out issues is by talking openly and honestly with their partner instead of fighting, insulting, withdrawing or sulking.
Relationship problems are common. In fact, every couple has them. It’s how they are handled that makes all the difference in the success of a relationship.
Relationships Have Challenges
Over the course of a relationship, each partner changes and grows. Oftentimes when this happens the relationship gets off balance. Then, it takes some time and effort to restore the balance in a relationship. A relationship or marriage can present many challenges that you never had to think about as a single person.
Sometimes, couples have not had the best role models for relationships. So, they just do what they had learned. Even if you had great models, relationships can still be challenging. This can happen when both partners come in with different expectations of what a marriage should look like.
Some causes of relationship conflict include:
- Sex or intimacy issues
- Different ideas of power in the relationship.
Relationship conflicts usually stem from couples having different values that they did not explain to their partner or the partner has not accepted. Many couples begin a relationship or marriage with an idea of how things should go. Then these ideas become unspoken expectations that cause conflict in a relationship.
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As long as both you and your spouse come to marriage counseling and are willing to consider change, there is hope for your relationship. You and your partner can strengthen your relationship by agreeing to try to work through your issues in a purposeful and guided way. You may notice that a hopeless marriage begins to feel hopeful again after therapy.
It is not unusual for couples to have problems. Then, after they go to therapy, they say that their marriage is more amazing and stronger than it ever was before. The best thing you can do for your relationship is to get help before the problems become too big to fix. With effort, you can learn new tools to have a wonderful marriage.