It’s no secret that an affair will rock a marriage, but indifference can damage your union too. No matter what the circumstances are that resulted in a wedge forming between the two of you, couples counseling is key to moving forward. Whether that be together or on your own.
Therapy is the best way for those who are unsure about the future of their relationship to make a well-informed decision. Here’s how couples counseling can help you figure out what you want to do.
How Can Therapy Help if We’re Not Sure We Want to Stay Together?
You’re all over the place emotionally. You’ll start the day feeling firm about getting that divorce, but come evening, all you want to do is stay together. Feeling confused is quite common when your relationship is on the brink.
Divorce is not something to be flippant about, especially when kids are involved. Couples counseling ensures you make the best decision for your family. Your therapist will work with the two of you to explore options and make sure no stone is left unturned.
If you decide to stay together, your therapist will give you the tools you need to communicate well. You’ll learn how to prioritize one another and the relationship, no matter the season.
If you decide to part ways, your therapist can help you communicate respectfully. They can help you establish boundaries, figure out a co-parenting strategy, and work out a custody arrangement. Often saving you a hefty attorney fee and the stress of having to show up in court.
What Happens if We Try to Figure it Out on Our Own?
It can be tempting to dismiss therapy. Many people find the prospect of talking about what’s happening daunting. Or maybe you’re in the position where you really want to chat with a therapist, but your spouse says, no way.
A risk of trying to figure out deep-seated relationship problems without help from a therapist is making the wrong decision. You could terminate a relationship that was fixable. Or, you decide to try and work it out, and end up repeating the same cycle of dysfunction until things get so bad that a divorce feels inevitable.
Another risk is that you may unwittingly find a new relationship with someone who has many of the same traits as your ex. Then end up repeating the same cycle over with them.
Whether you stay together or divorce, the insights gained through therapy are invaluable. Therapy teaches you to build healthy relationships with yourself and those around you. You discover your deal-breakers. Develop the capacity to love and respect yourself so you won’t tolerate anything less than what you deserve.
If you’re unsure about the future of your relationship, don’t wait, don’t stay mired in uncertainty. Please reach out. We’ve seen many couples who are unsure how to proceed, and coached them through so they’re confident in their decision and excited for what’s next.
Begin Couples Counseling in the Sacramento Area:
If you are ready to learn how to deal with the problems in your relationship, the therapists at The Relationship Therapy Center in Fair Oaks, CA and Roseville, CA can help! Our therapists are ready to support you and your partner in your journey towards creating a healthy and happy relationship. To begin marriage counseling in Roseville, CA area, or marriage counseling in Fair Oaks, please follow these three simple steps:
- Contact our counseling office to get more information about couples counseling and to schedule a free consultation.
- Make an appointment with one of our Gottman Method trained therapists.
- Find support and healing in your relationship!
Other Services Offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:
In addition to couples counseling, Our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. Our couples counseling services include: Counseling after infidelity, sex therapy, co-parent counseling, family therapy, divorce counseling, couples therapy retreats, and premarital counseling. Our individual therapy services include, anxiety treatment, trauma therapy, teen therapy, therapy for children, codependency counseling, depression treatment, and individual relationship counseling. We also offer online counseling to California residents. Please contact our office to learn more about the many ways we can help you and your loved ones.
Certified Gottman Therapist
Nancy Ryan, LMFT & Certified Gottman Therapist, is the Founder and Clinical Director of Relationship Therapy Center, with 15+ years of experience supporting clients in Sacramento, Placer, and El Dorado Counties, and with offices in Roseville, CA, and Fair Oaks, CA. Our team also supports clients throughout California, Idaho, and Washington
She specializes in couples counseling, mentoring, and training her therapists on how to be excellent therapists. Nancy is also featured in a variety of media and provides couples therapy weekend workshops and retreats.
Relationship Therapy Center uses evidence-based approaches such as EMDR for trauma, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness, and Motivational Interviewing to treat individuals. Family therapy focuses on family systems and Play Therapy for children. Evidence-based couples therapy includes using the Gottman Method, Gottman Method Affair recovery/infidelity counseling, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Attachment therapy, and David Schnarch's Crucible Therapy, including differentiation. The whole team is in weekly training on trauma-informed care, somatic techniques, sex therapy, and different topics each year.
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