Therapy for Toxic Relationships

When it’s good, it’s good. He’s attentive, present, and apologizes profusely for whatever happened before. Sweet relief washes over you. You connect so deeply you’re on cloud nine.

When it’s bad, he’s yelling at you, balled fists clenched at his side. He accuses you of cheating. He calls you all sorts of names, then cuts off your access to credit cards and disappears for two days.

If this cycle sounds familiar, it’s imperative you seek help.

You’re often confused, which is understandable. In a toxic relationship, confusion from gaslighting and other manipulative tactics is common. This often leads the people experiencing the abuse into believing they’re loosing their mind; they’re part of the problem, which makes it almost impossible to navigate alone.

Due to the multifaceted complexity of toxic relationship dynamics, it’s imperative you find a therapist who specializes in treating toxic relationship issues.

Here, we’ll touch on what makes a relationship toxic, and how a therapist can help you heal.

How do I Know if My Relationship is Toxic?

Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells or always on high alert, trying to make sense of periodic disrespect and manipulation at the hands of your partner? If so, your relationship is toxic.

Being belittled, having your needs ignored, and being blamed for things you have no control over are other components that make up a toxic marriage. Control and isolation are tactics commonly exerted in an abusive relationship, and if this is something you experience, your relationship is toxic.

People on the receiving end of this dynamic often feel confused. Boundaries are blurry, and the cycle becomes addictive because of how incredible it feels when things are good.

How do I Heal from a Toxic Relationship?

The good news is, it’s possible to heal from a toxic relationship. Your therapist will help you with boundaries and work with you to understand why you tolerated the dysfunction in the first place.

Often, this involves looking at familial dynamics from childhood, working on self-esteem, and more.

The bad news is, it may mean the end of your relationship. There is no way to heal from a toxic relationship if your partner is not willing and committed to doing the work to change their behavior as well.

Past hurts and transgressions leave a mark. It is incredibly challenging for some couples who have lived with dysfunction for so long to rewire those old habits.

If you and your partner want to work it out, it’s crucial you get couples counseling and each see your own individual therapist as well. At the Relationship Therapy Center, we offer both individual and marriage counseling in Sacramento.

If you decide to leave the relationship, it’s imperative you do so with the support of a therapist for an abusive relationship. Your therapist will help anchor you in reality, especially when those self-doubts creep in. Your therapist will help you understand more about yourself, give you healthy ways to cope, and help you grieve the loss of the relationship. Your therapist will also get you to the point that when you’ve healed and are ready for a new relationship, you don’t repeat old patterns.

Healing from a toxic relationship almost always requires therapeutic intervention. We understand the complexity and are not here to shame, blame, or do anything other than help you heal. We’d love to hear from you. Please give us a call or text any time to learn more.

Therapy in Roseville, CA, Davis, CA, Fair Oaks, CA, or Online in California:

If you are ready to change your life for the better, we can help. Our therapists are ready to

support you in your journey towards creating a healthy and happy lifestyle. To begin counseling in Roseville, CA area, counseling in Davis, CA or counseling in Fair Oaks, please follow these three simple steps:

1. Contact our counseling office to get more information about what therapy would be best for you and to schedule a free consultation.
2. Make an appointment with one of our highly trained therapists
3. Find support and healing in your life!

Services Offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:

Our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville, CA, Davis, CA and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. Our services include but are not limited to: Couples counseling, counseling after infidelity, sex therapy, co-parent counseling, family therapy, divorce counseling, intensive couples retreats, and premarital counseling. Our individual therapy services include, anxiety treatment, therapy for children, teen therapy, depression treatment, and individual relationship counseling. We also offer online counseling to California residents. Please contact our office to learn more about the many ways we can help you and your loved ones.