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Master Resilience: Bounce Back Well
Our emotional state plays a big part in the human experience.
When life is good and things are going well, we often feel invincible.
Then the pendulum swings the other way. Something happens – perhaps there’s a loss of some sort – and everything feels flat. Those old feelings of sadness, worthlessness or shame bubble back up to the surface and small tasks and decisions feel overwhelming… you’d rather stay in bed.
While there’s no way to truly eliminate the hard parts of life, there are some tricks you can use to help lessen the sting.
This piece is dedicated to learning how to master resilience: what it is, why it’s so important, and examples of how to use resilience to bounce back.
Keep Your Kids Engaged This Summer
While it’s important that kids get a chance to decompress over the summer months, it’s crucial they don’t spend the entire time behind a screen.
Yet, since most parents don’t get summer vacations along with their kids, it can become a challenge to ensure they remain engaged.
Here are some ideas on ways to keep your kids active and involved over the summer, ideas that will have a positive impact.
Paralyzing Anxiety: Flight-or-Flight’s Brother, Freeze
A paralyzing anxiety attack can almost completely shut you down.
When Fight-or-Flight’s brother, Freeze, hits you with his Supervillain-like freeze ray – unless you have a high frequency ice pick handy – you’re stuck!
Okay, okay. Anxiety related “freezing” might not be quite as dramatic as a Superhero battle.
But a paralyzing anxiety attack is definitely similar to being caught in the icy grasp of an overpowering force. You spin your wheels on slippery ground. You cannot move an inch.
Worst feeling ever!
How can you possibly shatter the grip of this frosty companion to the fight-or-flight response and get moving again?
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Improve Your Relationship: Understanding Bids for Connection
You may be surprised to know that most communication is non-verbal, and when it is verbal, often, it’s indirect: Most people aren’t great at asking for what they want.
This is why understanding a bid for connection is so, so, important.
A bid for what, exactly? You may be asking, what are you talking about?
Here. Let’s take a look.
Simple Meaningful Mother’s Day Gifts
The best Mother’s Day gifts are so exclusive, so unique, that you can’t get them on Amazon or anywhere else.
These cherished items are things that move mothers to tears. And while it may sound like they come with a hefty price tag they don’t—far from it.
The gifts we’re talking about here are things that come straight from the heart.
For those looking for ideas on what to create with the kids this Mother’s Day, check out these Mother’s Day gift ideas she’ll love.
What is a Healthy Marriage Relationship?
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How To Improve Family Life
Sometimes family life feels like sheer survival mode: You’re exhausted, barely hanging on as you try to keep everyone alive so they can show up for that seemingly never-ending list of obligations.
Day after day, commitment after commitment.
To make it even more challenging, one of your kids is struggling and you’re not sure what to do.
Instead, you catch yourself fantasizing of going somewhere quiet for a week—without kids—and… sleeping. Imagine, never changing out of high waisted PJ’s or even putting on a bra!
If you feel like you’re white-knuckling family life, this is a good indication it could use some readjusting.
These tips will help you catch your breath, and provide some much-needed peace.
At Relationship Therapy we understand this, and have helped families get through all sorts of challenges.
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How To Master the Art of Asking for What You Want
It’s been a rough week. You’re unsure about the future of your new position—there are rumblings of budget cuts—and some are worried about being let go.
I’ll get a pizza and a bottle of wine on the way home, you think, it’ll be a nice cozy evening with my boyfriend where I can share some of my worries about the craziness that’s been going on.
As if on cue, your phone buzzes.
Hey, the text reads, I’m going to go out with the guys after work… should be home around 9pm or so.
You feel heat flush over you.
Do you ask for what you want—share how you feel—or do you just let it go?
Here are some ideas and resources for asking for what you want and how couples’ therapy can help.
What To Do If Your Spouse Won’t Go To Couples Therapy
You’ve tried, lord have you tried! The answer is either a hard “no,” or it’s some other vague excuse.
The fact is, women tend to be much more open to the prospect of couples counseling than men. So, what should you do when you know your relationship is becoming stagnant—or worse, it’s in danger of falling apart—yet your other half has no interest in couples counseling?
As we all know, in relationships, compromise is key.
Here are some ideas and resources that may help if your spouse refuses to go to couples’ therapy.
Your Guide to Requests, Boundaries, and Threats
Asserting your needs in a relationship can feel so challenging that often, people just don’t.
Or, they’ll ask for what they want, but never enforce any type of consequence or set a boundary when their request is dismissed.
Distinguishing the difference between requests, boundaries and threats is extremely important for anyone in a relationship, and it’s imperative that you understand when (and why!) to implement each.
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Have You Done the Inner Work Required for a Great Marriage?
Many of us are aware of the foundation of a happy marriage, and will pinpoint the fundamentals required. There’s trust, communication, love and respect…but… what is the foundation of those things? Like, how do you get good at them?
Here’s the secret: you’ve got to do the work.
Let’s take a look at some of the inner ways of being that can agitate a relationship if they’re not healed first.
Why is Anxiety So Common?
Suffer from anxiety? You’re not alone. In the USA about one-third of the population will experience an anxiety disorder at some point, making it one of the most common mental health diagnoses currently.
The obvious next question then is, why? What’s causing this anxious uptick, and what—if anything—can be done about it?
Let’s take a look.
Reach out to start your healing journey today