An affair leaves one person on a rollercoaster, cycling from being too angry to talk one moment to then just wanting to know, WHY?!
And the other person? They likely feel deeply ashamed—filled with self-hatred and regret—as they stand on the precipice of losing everything.
Yes, affairs are a colossal breach of trust. But… if you’re wondering if there’s a possibility your relationship can recover from this, it can.
Here are some of the ways (backed up by statistics) that seeking marital or couples counseling after an affair can help save your union.
The Impact of Therapy on Recovery
Around 60-80% of marriages survive an affair when both partners attend and fully engage in couple’s counseling. The best part is that often, the work that they do in therapy increases their relationship satisfaction over time, making the couple feel happier and more aligned than ever.
Now, this does not mean that the key to improving a stagnant relationship is to have an affair—absolutely not. What it does highlight is the importance of therapy: how powerful it is in addressing disharmony, communication issues, and different ways of being in a relationship that result in hurt feelings, misunderstandings and loneliness that can result in infidelity.
Why Not to Attempt to Resolve it On Your Own
Without professional guidance, the root of the issue often never gets addressed. The couple will likely continue to exist in a state of dysfunction, never fully healing from the betrayal—and maybe even repeating the affair on continuing it—until it becomes too much.
How Therapy Can Help
A therapist is a neutral third party who is there to help guide you through the areas that need healing. Often, this involves pointing out behaviors or beliefs that individuals may have never been aware of. The therapist has both the education and experience necessary to help couples reestablish trust—or if that’s not feasible, if the hurt runs too deep—they can assist the couple in how to communicate in a healthy way, especially if kids are involved, and give each person in the relationship more insight into themselves so that the healing can begin.
At the Relationship Therapy Center, we use the Gottman Method because it’s the most effective.
Our therapists help couples by:
- Facilitating trust rebuilding in a safe, structured, non-judgmental space
- Equipping each individual with communication tools to help express themselves and process the trauma
- Navigate some of the complex challenges with professional care and guidance
- Understand what’s needed to prevent future infidelity
- Provide support for both partners as they navigate the healing process
By using a proactive approach that not only addresses core wounds but also provides couples with the tools and resources to manage challenges in the future, couples become empowered.
Our therapists are compassionate, non-judgmental, and committed to supporting you as you heal.
If you’ve experienced infidelity in your relationship or you’re worried it’s headed that way, the sooner you reach out, the better. We are here for you, give us a call or text anytime to learn more.
Begin Infidelity Counseling in the Sacramento Area:
If you are ready to learn how to deal with the problems in your relationship, the therapists at The Relationship Therapy Center in Fair Oaks, CA and Roseville, CA can help! Our therapists are ready to support you and your partner in your journey towards creating a healthy and happy relationship. To begin counseling in the Sacramento, CA area, please follow these three simple steps:
- Contact our counseling office to get more information about infidelity counseling and to schedule a free consultation
- Make an appointment with one of our relationship therapists.
- Find support and healing after an affair.
Services Offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:
In addition to infidelity counseling, our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville, CA and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. Our services include but are not limited to: Couples counseling, counseling after infidelity, sex therapy, co-parent counseling, family therapy, divorce counseling, intensive couples retreats, and premarital counseling. Our individual therapy services include, anxiety treatment, therapy for children, teen therapy, depression treatment, and individual relationship counseling. We also offer online counseling to California residents. Please contact our office to learn more about the many ways we can help you and your loved ones.