If you’re someone who isn’t afraid to put yourself out there despite how terrifying it can be, take a minute to pat yourself on the back. You will likely lead a rich and rewarding life.
Yet statistically speaking, more than likely this is not you. Over half the population lives in fear of allowing themselves to try new things. They lack what is known as a “growth mindset” and instead operate from a “fixed mindset” perspective. Fixed mindset folk tend to hold rigid beliefs about themselves and the world. They shy away from new activities. Their life is usually lived according to a strict routine, and any deviation from ‘the plan’ can feel intolerable.
Despite the allure of safety and predictability, many people with a fixed mindset crave more. There’s this little part of them that’s bored, apathetic, disengaged, and longs to live a little.
The good news is, these mindsets are not set in stone. Are you sick of playing small and saying no to yourself? If so, here are some steps you can take to move beyond the constraints of a fixed mindset and reach your full potential.
Why Is a Growth Mindset Important?
Studies upon studies show that the more engaged someone is with life, the happier they are.
A growth mindset is key to both resilience and achievement. People with a growth mindset tend not to get knocked down by life as easily. They understand that the only control anyone really has lies in their actions.
Growth mindset people consider the big picture. They see the valuable lessons in failure and know that failing something has no bearing on their self-worth.
They understand that there is no ‘right way’ to live life, and as long as we’re not hurting ourselves or one another, we are free to exist in the world however we see fit.
How Do You Develop a Growth Mindset?
Developing a growth mindset involves a conscious shift in perspective.
For example, when you try something new, rather than focusing on how good you are at it, focus on how you feel while doing it. If you enjoy the process, if you’re having fun and reveling in the challenge, who cares about the outcome?
Another hurdle that gets in the way of a growth mindset is the fear of what other people think. So many are afraid of being seen as a failure. For those who have spent most of their lives contorting themselves so that they appear acceptable to others, this can be really hard to rewrite.
For those keen on accelerating their mindset transformation, growth-mindset counseling is an excellent way to do so.
A lot (if not all) of our tendencies can be traced back to childhood. Changing the way you move through the world is challenging, and those who bolster their efforts by enlisting a therapist’s help are usually the ones who see the most success. They are the ones who gain a deeper understanding of the “why” behind their actions. They get to heal the part of themselves that was afraid, giving themselves permission to truly live.
To find a therapist, search “growth mindset counseling” or give us a call. We offer both in-person and virtual sessions in California and the greater Sacramento area and would love to share more about how we can help.
Therapy in Roseville, CA, Fair Oaks, CA, or Online in California:
If you are ready to change your life for the better, we can help. Our therapists are ready to support you in your journey towards creating a healthy and happy lifestyle. To begin counseling in Roseville, CA area, or counseling in Fair Oaks, please follow these three simple steps:
- Contact our counseling office to get more information about what therapy would be best for you and to schedule a free consultation.
- Make an appointment with one of our highly trained therapists
- Find support and healing in your life!
Services Offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:
Our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville, CA and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. Our services include but are not limited to: Couples counseling, counseling after infidelity, sex therapy, co-parent counseling, family therapy, divorce counseling, intensive couples retreats, and premarital counseling. Our individual therapy services include, anxiety treatment, therapy for children, teen therapy, depression treatment, and individual relationship counseling. We also offer online counseling to California residents. Please contact our office to learn more about the many ways we can help you and your loved ones.
Certified Gottman Therapist
Nancy Ryan, LMFT & Certified Gottman Therapist, is the Founder and Clinical Director of Relationship Therapy Center, with 15+ years of experience supporting clients in Sacramento, Placer, and El Dorado Counties, and with offices in Roseville, CA, and Fair Oaks, CA. Our team also supports clients throughout California, Idaho, and Washington
She specializes in couples counseling, mentoring, and training her therapists on how to be excellent therapists. Nancy is also featured in a variety of media and provides couples therapy weekend workshops and retreats.
Relationship Therapy Center uses evidence-based approaches such as EMDR for trauma, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness, and Motivational Interviewing to treat individuals. Family therapy focuses on family systems and Play Therapy for children. Evidence-based couples therapy includes using the Gottman Method, Gottman Method Affair recovery/infidelity counseling, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Attachment therapy, and David Schnarch's Crucible Therapy, including differentiation. The whole team is in weekly training on trauma-informed care, somatic techniques, sex therapy, and different topics each year.
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