Are you exhausted and underappreciated? Here you are, desperately trying to save the world, and no one notices or cares?
Do you feel compelled to rescue people, to your own detriment? Are you sneaking rides on other people’s emotional rollercoasters?
If so, you’re the perfect candidate for codependency therapy.
While not a diagnosis, codependency is indicative of childhood trauma, neglect, and unmet needs. It manifests through unbalanced enabling relationships that are all-consuming. Naturally, they basically suck the life out of you.
If you’re in this predicament it’s time to set boundaries. Here’s why it’s important to search for ‘codependency counselors near me.’
Why is Codependency Bad?
Many codependents ask, what’s so wrong about helping people and caring for others?
Nothing. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being altruistic. Caring for others is an incredible act. However, it gets murky when this is done with a complete lack of boundaries. In fact, nobody can “fix” anyone else. No matter how hard you try, you can’t “love” someone into changing.
The effort codependents exert means they totally neglect themselves and their own needs. As a result, most codependents have no idea who they are, and instead use their codependent tendencies to define who they are.
Codependent people often don’t connect to their own emotions.
The way codependency manifests usually makes the codependent person look like a “good person.” This, coupled with the fact that it often develops as a childhood coping strategy, means it is harder for some to recognize in themselves.
One of the saddest parts is, many codependents feel so unworthy that they only believe they deserve love if they work their behinds off trying to “fix” or “save” others.
What Are the Four Types of Codependency?
The four recognized types of codependency are characterized as:
- The dominant, who seeks to manage and control their partners behavior
- A people pleaser, on a never ending quest for approval and validation
- The enabler, who pours themselves into “fixing” often enabling destructive habits in the process
- A martyr, who always sacrifices their own needs to save others
What these codependents have in common is a complete lack of boundaries. And a hyper fixation on solving other people’s problems, in order to feel good about themselves.
How Can Codependency Therapy Help?
Typing ‘therapy for codependency near me’ into your Google search bar is the first step towards healing.
Your therapist will help untangle the mess, so to speak. They will guide you towards identifying why the urge to save others is so powerful. Then they will help you heal the raw parts of yourself that keep you trapped in the cycle of attempting to save others. You will learn about healthy boundaries and how helping people is much more effective when you set boundaries.
What you’ll begin to discover is peace. It may feel odd at first, the emotional rollercoaster codependents seek out can be plenty addictive. However, as you connect with yourself deeper and begin to heal, real joy will start to emerge. As the old adage goes, it’s important to teach from your scars, not your wounds. It’s only after you have healed yourself that you can better influence those around you.
Curious to learn more? We’re here for you. Give us a call anytime to learn more about therapy for codependents and how we can help.
Nancy Ryan, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Certified Gottman Therapist has been serving clients for over a decade and is now the Director of The Relationship Therapy Center where she mentors all of 15+ therapists on staff.
Christin Estes is a therapist that specializes in working with women who share codependency traits and are looking to feel less guilt, overwhelm and anger and still be caring and loving, but take care of themselves as well.
Begin Codependency Treatment in the Sacramento Area or Online in California:
At the Relationship Therapy Center, we use evidence-based methods to help you overcome codependency:
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to reshape negative thought patterns
- Boundary-setting exercises to strengthen your sense of self
- Mindfulness techniques to increase self-awareness
- Trauma-informed therapy to address underlying issues
We tailor our approach to your unique needs, ensuring a personalized path to healing.
If you are ready to break free from codependency and stop putting everyone’s needs before yours, then codependency treatment can help. The Relationship Therapy Center in Fair Oaks, CA or Roseville, CA and online in California can help you learn to advocate for your best interest. To begin codependency treatment in the Sacramento Area, follow these steps:
- Contact the Relationship Therapy Center to schedule your free 15-minute phone consultation to learn more about codependency treatment.
- Meet with one of our compassionate therapists.
- Begin codependency treatment and recognize YOUR worth!
Other Services Offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:
In addition to codependency treatment, Our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. Our couples services include: Counseling after infidelity, sex therapy, co-parent counseling, family therapy, divorce counseling, intensive couples retreats, and premarital counseling. Our individual therapy services include, therapy for children, teen therapy, depression treatment, and individual relationship counseling. Our therapists offer online counseling in California to treat a variety of mental health concerns. Please reach out to our Sacramento area therapy office to learn more about the many ways we can help you or your loved one.