When you’re single, Valentine’s Day can feel personal. It arrives with a vengeance, pink and red everywhere. Innuendos and couples doing couple things. Chocolate, flowers, lingerie and more.
All serving as a reminder: you’re alone.
But here’s the deal: First, you’re not alone. Second, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single.
We’ve got some great ideas on how to have fun this Valentine’s Day without a significant other. These tips will lessen the sting, and still allow you to participate in the holiday… if you want to, that is.
Valentine’s Day is Just Another Day
Let’s start with the most obvious; Valentines who?
You have every right to just ignore the holiday. You don’t have to be bitter about it, simply go about your Friday like you would any other Friday.
Maybe treat yourself to something yummy after work, and then kick your feet up. Wind down after the week and relax. Before you know it, it’s the next day. Time to go to the grocery store and load up on those discounted chocolates!
Get Together with Your Single Friends
Celebrating with friends who are in the same boat as you is an excellent way to have fun as a single person on Valentine’s Day.
Have everyone over for a “galentines” celebration, complete with charcuterie boards and bubbly, or order a food delivery.
You can meet your friends for dinner as well. It’s always fun to watch interactions between the couples who are out celebrating and wonder, are they really happier and having more fun than you? Probably not.
Spending time with people who lift your spirits is a cure all for all of life’s hurdles, and this one is no different.
Plus, the fact that your friends are in a similar situation makes it even more significant.
Treat Yourself
You know that bag you’ve been eyeing? It’s still hanging out in your virtual shopping cart, but you still can’t justify taking the plunge… Well, how about now, as a Valentine’s gift to yourself?
If it’s something you can afford and you’ve been going back and forth over it, you have every right to make yourself feel special.
Other ways of treating yourself can include a massage, or a mani-pedi.
Use the holiday as an excuse to treat yourself to something you really enjoy, something that’s not a regular part of your routine.
Share the Love
Send anonymous Valentines to friends, or flowers to someone who’s going through a hard time.
Doing unexpected things that lift people’s spirits is an incredible gift. Truly, the gift of kindness is one of the most impactful gifts there is, and it benefits both the gift-giver and the recipient. By brightening other people’s day, you’ll inadvertently brighten your own as well.
Go Somewhere New
Book an Airbnb a few hours away. Bring your favorite snacks and that new book you’ve been wanting to read. Take a piping hot bath, and just pamper yourself.
Many people have such a hard time with self-love and kindness, and being there for yourself, accepting and loving yourself (or at least working towards achieving that one day!) is an incredibly powerful thing.
Check Your Mindset
As mentioned before, there’s nothing wrong with being single. Worrying about what other people may think about you because you’re single is a waste of time, especially because it’s highly likely nobody’s thinking that, or cares.
If being single is still new and you feel a little shaky, don’t worry. It gets easier.
Strengthening and healing your relationship with yourself—discovering what your needs actually are—is one of the best, most powerful things you can do when you’re single. Then, when you’re ready to date again, you’re able to choose a partner who’s able to meet your needs.
If you’re down on yourself for being single or struggling with your relationship to self, therapy can really help.
We offer individual therapy in Roseville and Fair Oaks—two convenient Northern California locations—and would love to be part of your healing journey. Just give us a call or text to learn more, we’re ready to get started whenever you are.
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