Is Our Communication Bad Enough for Therapy?

As humans, we’re pretty adaptable. Adaptability is a good trait to have when you’re doing, let’s say, a home renovation. You don’t have a working kitchen and are having to take showers at the gym, but you’re flexible enough to make it work, albeit temporarily. 

Adaptability is not so good when your relationship starts to slip, and rather than say, ‘hey, wait a minute, let’s fix this,’ you adapt by letting a state of constant bickering or not connecting becomes your new normal.

If you’re someone who thinks couples therapy is only for infidelity or “serious” issues, let this serve as a wakeup call: Many divorces occur due to a lack of communication and other seemingly innocuous issues that accumulate over time.

Here are some common indicators that your communication (or lack thereof) is slowly destroying your relationship.  

You Have Well-Established Destructive Patterns

Do your disagreements follow a well-established pattern that includes raised voices, stonewalling, accusations, and disrespectful behavior? Does nothing seem to get resolved? Do you catch yourself thinking, ‘here we go again,’ because it’s become so routine? 

If so, you and your other half are perfect candidates for couples counseling.

You’re Afraid of Setting Them Off

You keep things to yourself to avoid conflict. You’re constantly walking on eggshells and trying to manage your partner’s emotions. This is a big indicator that couples counseling is necessary. This dynamic screams dysfunction and is a huge indicator that something needs to be addressed in a professional setting.

You Feel like Roommates

Though less dramatic, coexisting like roommates and not taking the time to connect with one another intimately results in a distant, superficial relationship. Once a relationship exists in this state for a while, it can be really challenging to rekindle your spark. Therapy is a great way to get you back on the same page. Your therapist will provide tools and resources so you never land in this awkward, disconnected place again.

You Aren’t Getting Anywhere

When bigger issues arise in a relationship, it can be challenging to navigate them. Different communication styles, perceptions of events, and boundaries impede communication. Navigating big issues in a respectful, considerate manner when you don’t hear or understand each other is a huge challenge.

Couples’ counseling is the best recourse you have. Truly, all couples benefit from learning how to communicate effectively with one another, and these skills translate to other relationships and situations as well. 

If you are at all unsure or have questions, you’re always welcome to give us a call or text. 

What Happens if We Have Poor Communication and Don’t Get Therapy?

Failure to roll up your sleeves and address the issue is a nail in the coffin of your relationship. That may sound dramatic, but it’s true. 

Often, the thing that causes couples to break up is death by a thousand cuts. As those bicker sessions and unmet needs accumulate, they quietly chip away at the love and respect you once shared. 

If you still have questions about couples counseling or are at all unsure, please reach out. Our clinicians work a flexible schedule to accommodate even the busiest of couples. Please call or text today to learn more about how The Relationship Therapy Center can help.

Begin Couples Counseling in the Sacramento Area:

If you are ready to learn how to deal with the problems in your relationship, the therapists at The Relationship Therapy Center in Fair Oaks, CA and Roseville, CA can help! Our therapists are ready to support you and your partner in your journey towards creating a healthy and happy relationship. To begin marriage counseling in Roseville, CA area, or marriage counseling in Fair Oaks, please follow these three simple steps:

1. Contact our counseling office to get more information about couples counseling and to schedule a free consultation.
2. Make an appointment with one of our Gottman Method trained therapists.
3. Find support and healing in your relationship!

Other Services Offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:

In addition to couples counseling, Our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. Our couples counseling services include: Counseling after infidelity, sex therapy, co-parent counseling, family therapy, divorce counseling, couples therapy retreats, and premarital counseling. Our individual therapy services include, anxiety treatment, trauma therapy, teen therapy, therapy for children, codependency counseling, depression treatment, and individual relationship counseling. We also offer online counseling to California residents. Please contact our office to learn more about the many ways we can help you and your loved ones.