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Am I Good Enough? How to Overcome Toxic Shame
Shame is excruciating and harmful. At its core, shame is the belief that we’re not good enough. Childhood is where most people acquire this message...
How to Have Self-Care and Boundaries During the Holiday Season
When you’re a youngster, the Holiday season is magical and exciting. Halloween kicks it all off. Then for the rest of the year it’s sweets, treats,...
5 Qualities to Look for In a Good Therapist
For many, the prospect of therapy – of having to open up and share your deepest most vulnerable self with a stranger – is terrifying. In fact, fear...
How Childhood Trauma & Neglect Adversely Impact Adulthood
Multiple studies attest to the lasting impact of childhood trauma, violence, and neglect. The residual effects carry through into adulthood and...
Why Smart Couples Choose Couples Therapy
When it comes to relationships, and frankly almost everything in life, you’re not expected to have all the answers. You don’t have to figure it...
Signs of Depression and When to Seek Help
True or false? If you’re able to get out of bed each morning and make it into work, you can’t be that depressed. If you guessed false, you’re...
Questions to Help Draw Out Withdrawn Kids and Teens
Being a parent is a flying by the seat of your pants kind of roller coaster, except no one’s there to ensure you’re tall enough to ride or strap you...
How to Break Bad Habits
Bad habits come in every shape, size and form. Smoking cigarettes, excessive online shopping, mindless scrolling, there’s no shortage of bad habits we can easily integrate if we so choose.
On the Brink of Divorce? Counseling Can Help
When it comes to divorce, we hear it all the time. Hollywood celebrities and public figures all claim, “we still deeply love and care for each other and are still best friends, but have mutually decided to lovingly file for divorce.”
When Should You Call an Anxiety Therapist?
Anxiety. Annoying at best, terrifying at worst.
When it morphs into a full-blown panic or anxiety attack, the onslaught can be so alarming that many people end up in the ER. Fully convinced their pounding heart means they’re in the throes of cardiac arrest.
Anxiety can leave you with the sensation of being “off,” constantly on edge with knots or a hollow gnawing in your gut. Feeling unsafe in your own mind and body. Totally detached or disconnected. Dreading the next occurrence – which you know is coming.
Today, anxiety is a word that gets tossed around frequently. Sometimes, its use in common everyday language is almost flippant. Like many things, its grip – the crushing hold it can have – exists on a spectrum.
So how do you know when it’s time to seek help?
What Are Some Reasons to Seek Family Counseling?
Whether we like to admit it or not, all families face trying situations. These affect everyone, and exude quite a strain on the family structure as a whole.
At the Relationship Therapy Center, we’ve helped families traverse all sorts of challenges. Perhaps it’s a dynamic that exists within the home that’s steadily growing worse. Or maybe it’s a tragedy that occurred – an accident, say – or something equally shocking and swift.
This piece covers some of the big ways family counseling helps. How do you know if your family could benefit from family counseling? Keep reading.
The Benefits of Face-to-Face Therapy
Your therapist appears concerned, concentrating deeply on what you’re saying. Her brow’s slightly furrowed and her face unflinching as she takes in the full magnitude of what you’re revealing. You’ve never opened up like this before – you’ve never been this articulate either – and you can’t wait for her response.
You finish your sentence and your therapist remains still. She doesn’t move – not even a blink.
That’s when you realize: the screen is frozen.
Did she catch any of what you shared?
Can You Recover from an Affair on Your Own?
A little over a month ago, your heart was ripped apart and your world came crashing down when you found out about the affair. Since then, emotions have zipped all over the place – up, down, all the way around – sometimes multiple times throughout the day.
Leaving you ragged and exhausted.
That, coupled with opinions from the friends and family members you’ve confided in, “once a cheater, always a cheater,” has left you reeling as you struggle to find solid ground.
Yet despite all of the uncertainty, there’s something you’re sure of: you’re not ready to give up just yet. You’re willing to try and save the relationship.
But how?
Where to start?
Is this something you can do on your own, or is it best to enlist help from an expert?
The Honest Truth
In order to heal – to fully recover and begin to repair from the ground up – most (if not all) couples require therapy.
App-Based or In-Person Therapy? Which is Best?
Perhaps you’re online, searching ‘therapist near me,’ when it dawns on you. Therapy has changed (a lot) since Freud’s day. In fact, many people don’t even attend in-person sessions anymore.
As with most things, depending on which method of therapy you choose, there are pros and cons. Let’s take a closer look at some of today’s therapy options, and go over the pluses and minuses associated with each.
Why You Should Choose a Gottman Trained Couples Counselor
Here’s a thought: In America, 50% of marriages end up in divorce.
That’s a failing grade – an ‘F’ in academics.
But beyond being just a number, what it really means is roughly half of American families are split apart. Kids get shuttled back and forth between homes, and have to endure tricky dynamics with the sudden introduction of new siblings and stepparents.
Of course, there are many situations where divorce is warranted. However, with the somewhat jarring 50% failure rate, isn’t it interesting that we’re not taught more about relationships?
Like… we’re just expected to know how to be “good” at them, even after proving time and time again we’re not?
Then there’s added confusion, courtesy of fairytales and Hollywood. You’d think by now someone would have realized: when it comes to relationships (through no fault of our own) many of us have no idea what we’re doing.
Enter, Dr. John Gottman.
Reach out to start your healing journey today