“If it wasn’t for me, you’d be totally comfortable living in filth,” you joke.
Except it’s not really a joke.
When it comes to managing the household, it often feels like you have three kids, not two. Your husband needs to be reminded to put his things away just as often as your five and seven-year-olds.
There are other issues, too. Nothing too dire, just sometimes, he’s quick to frustrate.
Just this morning, a dropped butter knife resulted in an onslaught of curse words that erupted at a very high volume.
You hate to feel like a nag, but sometimes that’s all you seem to do. You’re telling him to calm down; it’s not that big of a deal. You’re reminding him where the hamper is; dirty clothes have a place, and it’s not on the bedroom floor.
You’ve asked him 15 times now to make a vet appointment for Bruno.
All the micromanaging, picking up after, and reprimanding are exhausting. You’re at your wits’ end and don’t know what to do.
ADHD in Adults
An estimated 6% of adults are diagnosed with ADHD, yet less than 20% of them receive the care and treatment needed.
Additionally, an estimated 25% percent of adults suspect they have ADHD, yet have never been officially diagnosed.
If your spouse is diagnosed with ADHD, this provides an explanation for the forgetfulness, the lack of focus in some areas, and hyper focus in others, and the seeming inability to handle minor frustrations appropriately.
If you suspect your partner may have ADHD, it’s important that they get formally diagnosed by a licensed clinician.
Search “ADHD therapist near me” to find a professional able to issue a diagnosis.
Couples Therapy for ADHD
Living with undiagnosed and/or untreated ADHD poses significant challenges. Impulsiveness often results in reckless spending. The issues with time management, concentration, and frustration tolerance can affect work performance. And of course, ADHD presents issues at home as well.
Couples counseling for ADHD is an excellent way of mitigating these challenges.
Your therapist will equip you with tools you can use to navigate all the ways ADHD manifests at home. This can include teaching you de-escalation techniques, coming up with practical time-management tips, and breaking the cycle of constantly feeling like you have to parent your spouse.
Seeking marriage counseling for ADHD provides you with the know-how so you can join forces and minimize the impact ADHD has on the home.
Maximize the Strengths of ADHD
People with an ADHD diagnosis tend to be creative out-of-the-box thinkers who enjoy trying new things. Your therapist may encourage you to allow your partner to take the lead in some areas, bringing fresh, fun spontaneity into your life.
If your partner has ADHD, seeking couples counseling is your ticket to restoring calm and order in your home.
At the Relationship Therapy Center, our advice to every struggling couple is that the best time to get help is now.
The sooner you and your spouse learn to work together to combat the less-than-desirable aspects of ADHD, the better your life will be.
Begin Couples Counseling in the Sacramento Area:
If you are ready to learn how to deal with the problems in your relationship, the therapists at The Relationship Therapy Center in Fair Oaks, CA and Roseville, CA can help! Our therapists are ready to support you and your partner in your journey towards creating a healthy and happy relationship. To begin marriage counseling in Roseville, CA area, or marriage counseling in Fair Oaks, please follow these three simple steps:
- Contact our counseling office to get more information about couples counseling and to schedule a free consultation.
- Make an appointment with one of our Gottman Method trained therapists.
- Find support and healing in your relationship!
Other Services Offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:
In addition to couples counseling, Our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. Our couples counseling services include: Counseling after infidelity, sex therapy, co-parent counseling, family therapy, divorce counseling, couples therapy retreats, and premarital counseling. Our individual therapy services include, anxiety treatment, trauma therapy, teen therapy, therapy for children, codependency counseling, depression treatment, and individual relationship counseling. We also offer online counseling to California residents. Please contact our office to learn more about the many ways we can help you and your loved ones.
Certified Gottman Therapist
Nancy Ryan, LMFT & Certified Gottman Therapist, is the Founder and Clinical Director of Relationship Therapy Center, with 15+ years of experience supporting clients in Sacramento, Placer, and El Dorado Counties, and with offices in Roseville, CA, and Fair Oaks, CA. Our team also supports clients throughout California, Idaho, and Washington
She specializes in couples counseling, mentoring, and training her therapists on how to be excellent therapists. Nancy is also featured in a variety of media and provides couples therapy weekend workshops and retreats.
Relationship Therapy Center uses evidence-based approaches such as EMDR for trauma, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness, and Motivational Interviewing to treat individuals. Family therapy focuses on family systems and Play Therapy for children. Evidence-based couples therapy includes using the Gottman Method, Gottman Method Affair recovery/infidelity counseling, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Attachment therapy, and David Schnarch's Crucible Therapy, including differentiation. The whole team is in weekly training on trauma-informed care, somatic techniques, sex therapy, and different topics each year.
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