What makes a Healthy Relationship?
Many times, we know what we don’t want better than we know what we do want. This is true for couples that I see in my practice as well. It is sometimes easier to voice complaints: “He/She doesn’t make me happy anymore” “We are just a mess” When I ask them, “If we worked together for awhile and you finally got to the place where you said to yourself, ‘there that’s better, I like how we are now’ what would be different?” I often get a blank look, or general statements, and not much detail on how things would be better.
We are raised either watching TV and movies to get an idea of relationships or we just witness the ones around us growing up and those become our models (whether consciously or not). Below is a list of some of the ingredients of a healthy relationship. There are many more but it was just really hard to keep going in one infographic. Hope this helps stimulate your thinking and gives you some areas to work on.
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Certified Gottman Therapist
Nancy Ryan, LMFT & Certified Gottman Therapist, is the Founder and Clinical Director of Relationship Therapy Center, with 15+ years of experience supporting clients in Sacramento, Placer, and El Dorado Counties, and with offices in Roseville, CA, and Fair Oaks, CA. Our team also supports clients throughout California, Idaho, and Washington
She specializes in couples counseling, mentoring, and training her therapists on how to be excellent therapists. Nancy is also featured in a variety of media and provides couples therapy weekend workshops and retreats.
Relationship Therapy Center uses evidence-based approaches such as EMDR for trauma, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness, and Motivational Interviewing to treat individuals. Family therapy focuses on family systems and Play Therapy for children. Evidence-based couples therapy includes using the Gottman Method, Gottman Method Affair recovery/infidelity counseling, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Attachment therapy, and David Schnarch's Crucible Therapy, including differentiation. The whole team is in weekly training on trauma-informed care, somatic techniques, sex therapy, and different topics each year.
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