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Why Do Some People Never Grow or Change?
We all know that person—that one individual who refuses to change their destructive ways, even when it’s obvious to everyone else how much better their life could be if they did.
Then, there’s that person whose life looks exactly the same now as it did 20 years ago. Sure, they’re driving a different car (same make and model, just newer version) and they have a few more wrinkles on their face, but everything else is the same.
Growth and change are what makes life exciting and fun, but it can also be really terrifying.
So, why do some people never seem to grow or change?
Here are some of the most common reasons people stay stuck.
Recognize and Cope With Your Spouse’s Passive Aggressive Behavior
What is Passive-Agressive Communication? Passive-aggressive, just like many other psychiatric terms, has become a label used in everyday speech....
The Relationship Advice That No One Gave Us
What kind of relationship advice were you given?
Most of us were not taught anything, and others received really, just… bad advice.
Women especially got an extensive list of how to be desirable to a man—as if the goal is to just snag any Tom, Dick or Harry that showed even the slightest smidgen of interest—oh joy!
Honestly, when it comes to relationships, most people are like a litter of puppies, sweet and innocent with their lack of awareness, nosing around with their eyes sealed shut, moved by instinct yet completely unaware of what is really going on.
Here’s the advice we should have been told about relationships—advice you’re never too old to learn.
Communication Problems? 7 Tips to Better Communication in Your Marriage
Does it sometimes feel like your spouse is from another planet? That the two of you speak totally different languages? That’s actually not so far from the truth.
A close-up of a couple embracing, with a focus on a hand displaying an engagement ring. Soft, romantic atmosphere.
People of all genders do have different ways of communicating. To remedy communication problems, those differences will have to be overcome.
Still, it probably feels like both of you are completely clueless about how to even approach this issue. What, then, can you do? Are you just doomed to being horrible communicators? – I assure you, it’s not that hopeless.
What if a Struggling Couple Doesn’t Go to Therapy?
If you feel like your relationship is falling apart you have two choices: The first is to ignore what’s happening, cross your fingers and hope it gets better.
The second is to go to couple’s counseling.
These decisions are not created equally, however. One leads to a much better outcome than the other. Here’s what happens if your relationship is falling apart… and you choose to do nothing.
5 Practical Tips to Deal with a Emotionally Explosive Spouse
Dealing with an emotionally explosive spouse is not easy. One minute you’re fine and you feel like you know your partner, the next, you feel like...
Why Therapy Over Summer Vacation is Best for Your Child
Summer is the perfect time to get your child into therapy. If your kiddo is struggling, or if your family life feels chaotic, the summer months are ideal for getting back on track. What better time than fall to turn over a new leaf and start the school year off on the right foot?
Remember, early intervention is key in preventing bigger problems down the road.
Here are some Tips to Help Your Child Be Open to Therapy Over the Summer
Managing the Different Parts of Us
We all face multiple decisions throughout the day: Go for a run, or plop on the couch with popcorn and the remote instead? Eat the leftovers in the fridge, or slide through the In-N-Out drive thru? Order an Americano, or get that Caramel Frappuccino?
And, in those moments, regardless of what you choose (or how you end up bribing yourself), there’s a very opinionated and vocal committee involved in the decision-making process.
You may hear the voice of your mom, who always criticized your weight. Your five-year-old self who didn’t get her needs met as a child appears, and is adamant about her sugar fix. Then, there’s that person you aspire to be who is appalled at all the ways you’ve been falling short recently.
Honestly? Tussling, appeasing, and trying to negotiate with the inner committee is exhausting.
Here are some ways to sort through the internal noise …without totally wearing yourself out.
Do You Feel More Like Roommates? Five Ways to Reconnect With Your Partner
Why do we feel like roommates instead of partners? Has your relationship with your partner become stale and routine? Does it feel like you have a...
After the Affair: The Danger of Not Seeking Therapy
An affair leaves one person on a rollercoaster, cycling from being too angry to talk one moment to then just wanting to know, WHY?!
And the other person? They likely feel deeply ashamed—filled with self-hatred and regret—as they stand on the precipice of losing everything.
Yes, affairs are a colossal breach of trust. But… if you’re wondering if there’s a possibility your relationship can recover from this, it can.
Here are some of the ways (backed up by statistics) that seeking marital or couples counseling after an affair can help save your union.
How to Find a Great Couples Therapist in Roseville
We all know that seeing a couples counselor is the way to go when your relationship is rocky. However, there’s more to it than that: all therapists are not created equal, and it’s important to find someone you mesh with—someone you both feel comfortable around, and perhaps most important of all, someone who knows what they’re doing.
Here are some tips on finding a couples counselor in Roseville California—or anywhere really.
The Difference Between a Therapist and a Life Coach
There is a colossal difference between a therapist and a life coach, yet it’s easy to still confuse the two. Life coaches are everywhere, promising to help you get out of a rut and grow into the person you were meant to become.
As tempting as this sounds, if you’re struggling mentally, choosing a life coach instead of a therapist can actually do more harm than good.
Let’s take a closer look at the difference between the two.
5 Blocks to Listening in Your Love Relationship
How do I listen better? Have you ever been talking for a while and noticed that the person you were talking to wasn't paying attention? An...
Are You a Fixer?
If you’re a fixer, here’s the brutal truth: You’re missing the real issue.
Though society holds people with seeming selfless tendencies to a high esteem, the reality is that people who devote all their energy in efforts to fix and control others tend to be codependent. They’re often driven to partake in this type of behavior as a result of unresolved wounds.
Here, we’ll take a look at some of the reasons why people gravitate towards being fixers—what they’re actually trying to accomplish when they become overly involved in the behavior of others—and if you’re a fixer, what you can do instead.
Blending Families Isn’t Easy But These Tips Can Help
Blending families not only create challenges that are unique, but are quite overwhelming. Consider these comments, for example: “I had hoped to win...
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