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4 Personal Boundaries That Are Present In A Healthy Relationship
You might think that boundaries are unnecessary. Maybe you feel that limits will stifle the spontaneity in your relationship. However, all healthy relationships need boundaries. Boundaries are like a road map for your relationship. They provide a guide for how your relationship will work and how you will get your needs met. Limits allow both you and your partner to feel safe and comfortable in the relationship. Here are the four important ones.
Is It The Winter Blues Or Something More Serious?
There are around 10 million Americans who are diagnosed with seasonal affective disorder (SAD). Around 20 percent more people may have a mild form of SAD. Seasonal affective disorder is a type of mood disorder that is characterized by depression. SAD occurs at the same time every year — it usually starts about the time that the days grow shorter and the weather turns colder. By the time spring or early summer rolls around, the symptoms disappear.
Everyone has minor bouts of the “winter blues” from time-to-time. Gloomy weather can make anyone feel more sluggish and down. So, how can you tell when the winter blues equal a SAD diagnosis? The key is the degree to which the seasonal mood changes affect your life. With the winter blues, you might feel more lethargic than normal, but it won’t keep you from getting out of bed and going to work. However, if you have SAD, it might seem impossible to get out of bed in the morning, so you miss work. Or, you can’t focus on schoolwork, so your grades to plummet. Experiencing these types are problems are an indicator that you might have more than just the winter blues. Here are some of the warning signs of SAD.
How To Navigate The Five Stages Of A Relationship
The beginning of a new relationship is one of nature’s greatest highs. Although you might expect the relationship to stay this way forever, things...
Are You Demanding Too Much From Your Partner?
The current divorce rate in the United States is about 40 percent of all people who married 35 years ago, according to the latest statistics.1 So,...
4 Powerful Ways To Cope With Adversity
There is no way to describe how it feels to cope with the despair of life's biggest tragedies. When you are emotional and panicked, it is hard to...
How To Move On After A Divorce
For some people, going through a divorce can be the most painful thing that they have experienced. Divorce is something that can shake a person to the core and take years to move past. After a divorce, it can be tough to adjust to the single life again, especially if you were married for many years. You might be wondering how you can move forward. There are some things that you can do to start the healing process and move forward. Here are some tips from marriage counseling experts in Roseville, CA
How To Let Go of Remorse And Guilt
Guilt and remorse are two feelings that result in heavy emotional burdens. They show up when you don’t act in a way that is consistent with your values and goals. First, you feel guilty about what you did. Then, comes lingering remorse which can then lead to shame. Things like breaking a promise, procrastinating or saying something hurtful to someone during an argument can lead to feelings of regret.
Guilt and remorse can be positive. These feelings arise from your own rules of moral and acceptable behavior. They help you reflect on your actions and motivate you to make positive changes. However, it is very destructive to carry around these emotions for long periods of time. Holding on to guilt only leads to more of the same. Guilt is the feeling of doing something bad, but without watching our thoughts can lead to shame, which is feeling bad. It can also affect other areas of your life, including your relationships.
Guilt hammers away at self-esteem and confidence. Constant shame makes it hard to focus and be at your very best. Unfortunately, these two emotions can linger on. The good news is that you can learn to forgive yourself and break the habit of feeling guilt and shame. Here are some approaches that I have found to help clients in my Roseville marriage counseling practice.
Top Risk Factors Associated With Depression
Millions of people have depression. Depression is a significant contributor to disability and can lead to suicide if left untreated. Depression is...
Red Flags That Indicate You And Your Partner May Be Growing Apart
Relationships naturally change over time. You may feel like you are growing apart from your partner or spouse, only to become closer again....
Bored? 4 Ways To Create A Meaningful, Engaging Life
Do you frequently feel bored with life? Maybe you have no interest or motivation and don’t feel excited about things anymore. Being bored with life can impact your relationship as well. Are you wondering if you should consider Sacramento couples counseling because of the impact that boredom is having on your relationship? Apathy is a warning sign that something’s not quite right in your life. It indicates that you are stuck. There are many reasons for boredom. You might not be living a life that is not in line with your aspirations and values. Maybe you are not following your dreams. Fortunately, there are some easy ways to end everyday boredom and restore vitality to your life. If you are having trouble using some of these tips, you might need to seek help for depression.
Communication Help: The Art of Listening
There is more to listening though, than just being aware of your blocks. So here are steps to listening. 1. Stop what you are doing, face the...
3 Strategies For Dealing With Conflict In Your Relationship
As anyone who has been in any relationship knows, conflict will inevitably occur. Disagreements are a normal part of every human relationship....
Signs That It Is Time To Get Help For Your Relationship
You and your partner are arguing again. You might be wondering if it is time to go to relationship counseling. After all, every relationship has ups and downs, and it is a big step to go to counseling. When you are having problems, it is easy to wait to see if things will improve on their own. However, most couples wait too long to go to counseling and end up suffering for much longer than needed.
Most of the time, couples should seek therapy long before they think they need to. Going to counseling shouldn’t be a last-ditch effort to save a broken relationship. Although issues might start small, they tend to grow in size when not resolved. Sacramento couples counseling can give you and your partner the tools that you need to address issues. Here are some signs that it is time to get help.
Codependent? Self-Care is not Selfish
Memorial Day weekend was coming up and I had three days off to decide what to do with. Because I am balancing a job and my counseling practice, a...
Find your best therapist: Make sure the therapist is the best fit
From the Expert Roundup - How to Find the Best Psychotherapist? Secret Unlocked Nancy Ryan, LMFT and Certified Gottman Therapist was one of the...
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