An affair leaves you on a rollercoaster. You cycle from being too angry to talk one moment to then just wanting to know, WHY?! And the other person? They likely feel deeply ashamed and filled with self-hatred and regret. Worried that they may lose everything. Yes,...
We all know that seeing a couples counselor is the way to go when your relationship is rocky. However, there’s more to it than that: all therapists are not created equal, and it’s important to find someone you mesh with—someone you both feel comfortable around, and...
How do I listen better? Have you ever been talking for a while and noticed that the person you were talking to wasn’t paying attention? An especially irritating instance is when someone asks you a question about something….”Hey, how are things going...
Blending families not only create challenges that are unique, but are quite overwhelming. Consider these comments, for example: “I had hoped to win my stepchild’s affection and approval with lots of love and attention. But after many years I still have not...
You may be surprised to know that most communication is non-verbal, and when it is verbal, often, it’s indirect: Most of us aren’t great at asking for what we want. This is why understanding a bid for connection is so, so, important. A bid for what, exactly? You may...
What are my rights in relationships? I have been talking to quite a few clients lately who describe their relationship as “verbally abusive.” Previously, I wrote a blog on what a verbally abusive relationship looks like, in case you are wondering. Many...
