When standing next to your partner feels lonelier than standing by yourself.
Your relationship is on a drastic downward slide. The signs are everywhere. Lack of communication. Loss of interest in sex. No physical interactions. Loneliness. Confusion. Questions with no answers. Angry words. Or worse, no words at all.
You have tried relationship counseling, but your partner does not show up, puts little to no effort forth and has seemingly moved on. That is when you know your reality. Acknowledging the your epiphany that you have always known but are finally ready to see. The only thing that you can change is how you interact and react with your partner. The only thing you can control in your relationship, is you.
No matter what your job entails, making time for one another is essential to maintaining your relationship.
For some women and men who own their own business or are in the upper echelon of a company, we are busy. Seemingly all of the time. And then some. We want to succeed in our jobs, support our family and ourselves, get to school events, networking events, family events. Oh, and yourself. We try not to forget a single thing. Is business going well? Check. Maintaining a position that has been worked for? Check. Meeting expectations for your family as a whole? Check. And the list goes on. But there is a nagging feeling, that feeling that you get on the ride to your office or as you are firing up your computer to start your day. Suddenly, in the middle of a meeting with your associates or meeting with a new client at a networking event, it hits you. Square in the jaw. Right in the pit of your stomach. You realize that there are two things that you are forgetting to put your energy into. Your marriage and your spouse.
Think this sounds too good to be true? Think again. With knowledge and help, you can feel better and live healthier.
Anxiety disorders are the most common of mental disorders in the United States. Anxiety, often debilitating, affects 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population every year.(1) Anxiety disorders develop from risk factors that include brain chemistry, personality, genetics and life events and can be identified by the following common characteristics: excessive worrying; fatigue; restlessness; difficulty concentrating; irritability; panic attacks and irrational fears.
If you find that infidelity has- or is- affecting your marriage, seeking a therapist and couples therapy is where the repairation can begin.
Picture this. White brides dress and tuxedo of the groom, perfectly altered. The colors of the bridal party dresses and groomsmen tuxedos perfectly accented by colors of the flowers in bouquets and corsages, alike. The countless hours spent picking the perfect venue, invitations, music, food and guest list have all pulled together, perfectly. The day is here. Your wedding day. You are ready to say, I do, to a life you have envisioned with your spouse. Bells are ringing in perfect sync and your future is bright. But what happens after this picture-perfect day? You may be ready to handle any curve balls thrown your way, batting them out of the park together. As a couple. As one. But what happens if your happily ever after is met with infidelity? Wait. You didn’t sign up for this. What if your perfect plan turns out to be less than perfect? With a divorce rate at an all-time high with infidelity being the reported main cause, how do you avoid being a part of the higher percentage? Can you recover from your spouses infidelity? Is this marriage worth trying to save? If the answer is a resilient, yes, seeking couples therapy is the best place to begin.
Having sex when dealing with depression can be satisfying to you and your partner-- all that it takes is a little reinvention.
It is common for men and women to have sexual problems as a result of depression. The effects of any level of sexual dysfunction for men and women with depression can have a debilitating effect not only for you but also for your partner. There are psychological, physiological and pharmacological factors that can lead to changes in your sexuality and sexual relationship. The most common factors include side effects of some medications, being fearful that the inability to perform and/or satisfy your partner may cause rejection and a lack of desire. Be assured that if you and your partner work together, you can overcome your sexual obstacles and reconnect on many levels.
Recent studies have shown that making healthy modulations to your diet can benefit your depression management plan in a number of ways. A healthier diet can reduce your pain sensitivity caused by depression, including nerve pain and inflammation. Eliminating refined sugar and alcohol from your diet can also improve your depression.
While it is most important to see your doctor regularly and follow her/his depression management plan designed for you, there is more that you can do on your own to help yourself at every meal.
When helping your child through anxiety and depression, don’t be afraid to reach out for assistance and support- for your child and for yourself.
Approximately 20 percent of American adolescents, ages 13-17, struggle with anxiety and/or depression. Determining the difference between teen angst and teens with anxiety and depression can be a fine line, but there are some significant cues and symptoms that are tell-tale signs.
Untreated PTSD can lead to depression and relationship issues
Many traumatic events, physical and psychological, can cause depression. Often linked primarily to stress and emotional issues, people who suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) are often at a higher risk to develop depression. PTSD can develop after a recent or past trauma, such as warfare, acts of violence, a life-threatening illness, emotional abuse, or the death of a loved one. The main psychological symptoms of PTSD are hyperarousal, avoidance, re-experiencing memories, mood swings and changes in behavior. Untreated symptoms of PTSD can lead to depression.
If you are suffering from PTSD and/or depression, it is important to get treatment immediately. PTSD is nothing to be ashamed of and help is readily available to assist you through the process of healing.
Codependence often stems from behaviors that we learn in childhood. For instance, if you felt like your grades were never good enough for your parents, you might have bent over backward to get good grades even if it meant that you weren’t getting enough sleep because you had to study constantly. You are sacrificing your own needs (sleep) to please someone else (parents). Many people repeat the same pattern of behavior into adulthood.
Signs That You Might Be Co-Dependent
If you are planning your wedding, probably envision you and your spouse living happily ever after. With the excitement of a wedding, it is hard to imagine anything else. However, once the excitement wears off, you realize that marriage is far more difficult than you had imagined. sharing your life with another person can be a challenge. Marriages take love, commitment and respect to work. A marriage based on these things doesn’t just happen. It is something that you have to build. To build a successful marriage, you must first know what things make up a happy marriage. Here are some important keys to make your marriage a lasting one.