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Bored? 4 Ways To Create A Meaningful, Engaging Life
Do you frequently feel bored with life? Maybe you have no interest or motivation and don’t feel excited about things anymore. Being bored with life can impact your relationship as well. Are you wondering if you should consider Sacramento couples counseling because of the impact that boredom is having on your relationship? Apathy is a warning sign that something’s not quite right in your life. It indicates that you are stuck. There are many reasons for boredom. You might not be living a life that is not in line with your aspirations and values. Maybe you are not following your dreams. Fortunately, there are some easy ways to end everyday boredom and restore vitality to your life. If you are having trouble using some of these tips, you might need to seek help for depression.
What Are Attachment Injuries and How Do They Affect You?
Attachment injuries are emotional wounds that become activated when a person with an insecure attachment style falls in love.
If you’re involved in a push-pull dynamic or if you feel as though your partner is withdrawing and thoughts of life without them terrifies you. Similarly, if you feel an overwhelming urge to be alone and are terrified of letting your guard down and getting close to someone, you may be insecurely attached.
Often, people misinterpret the intense feelings that accompany attachment injuries, believing the emotional rollercoaster is a sign of true love.
The ups and downs of attachment injuries can even become addictive. Coupled with the belief that intensity exists because the person you’re involved in this tumultuous union with is your soul mate, keeps many people stuck. They are unaware that what’s really going on is they’re being jerked around by an attachment injury, and as a result are missing out on experiencing real love.
So, what are attachment injuries, and how do they affect you? Let’s dive in.
Communication Help: The Art of Listening
There is more to listening though, than just being aware of your blocks. What are the steps to listening well? 1. Stop what you are doing, face...
3 Strategies For Dealing With Conflict In Your Relationship
Why do couples argue? As anyone in a relationship knows, conflict is inevitable. Disagreements are a normal part of every human relationship....
Therapy for Men: What Does it Look Like and What Do They Work On?
A misconception about therapy that tends to terrify men is that it’s super touchy feely and delves deep into the muck and mire of emotions and feelings.
Thankfully, there are tons of therapeutic modalities that emphasize logic without dwelling on the emotional experience.
For those curious about therapy for men, here’s what it looks like, including some of the things they work on in session.
Signs That It Is Time To Get Help For Your Relationship
You and your partner are arguing again. You might be wondering if it is time to go to relationship counseling. After all, every relationship has ups and downs, and it is a big step to go to counseling. When you are having problems, it is easy to wait to see if things will improve on their own. However, most couples wait too long to go to counseling and end up suffering for much longer than needed.
Most of the time, couples should seek therapy long before they think they need to. Going to counseling shouldn’t be a last-ditch effort to save a broken relationship. Although issues might start small, they tend to grow in size when not resolved. Sacramento couples counseling can give you and your partner the tools that you need to address issues. Here are some signs that it is time to get help.
What Makes Relationship Therapy Center’s Intensive Couples Retreat Unique?
One of the most incredible parts of being a therapist is seeing people’s lives improve by working through their issues. And when it comes to our intensive couples retreat, often, we see that change happen overnight.
Think of a couples retreat like a relationship renovation: It’s an intensive, done over 2 or 3 days where the parts of the relationship that no longer work are stripped away. The ‘support beams’ are examined and strengthened if necessary, and then the whole thing is rebuilt stronger and better than it was before.
If you’re considering an intensive couples retreat, (spoiler, they’re worth every penny!) Here’s what sets ours apart from the rest.
The Gottman Method and Beyond: How We Include Other Concepts in Couples Counseling
When couples undergo therapy together, they all have the same goal. They’re looking for something that works, something that addresses the challenges they’re currently facing.
Yet no one benefits from a one-size-fits-all approach.
In order to effectively treat couples, it’s important to hone in on the unique relationship dynamics of each, and come up with an individualized treatment approach. It is also important to have advanced skills in couples therapy.
At the Relationship Therapy Center, our therapists are well-versed in a variety of proven couples counseling protocols which means they’re prepared to assist no matter what the issues are.
Here are some of the ones we use often, and what they help address.
Help for Communication: More on The Art of Listening
So, in a previous blog I talked about the blocks to listening. There is more to listening though, than just being aware of your blocks. So here are the seven steps to better listening.
When You’re Successful at Work but Failing at Love
Successful people often struggle with relationships. One of the main reasons this occurs is that the skills that drive career success—competitiveness, emotional detachment, and relentless goal-pursuit—can actually damage intimate connections.
Here’s a deeper look at why successful people fail at love and what you can do about it.
Why Do Some People Never Grow or Change?
We all know that person—that one individual who refuses to change their destructive ways, even when it’s obvious to everyone else how much better their life could be if they did.
Then, there’s that person whose life looks exactly the same now as it did 20 years ago. Sure, they’re driving a different car (same make and model, just newer version) and they have a few more wrinkles on their face, but everything else is the same.
Growth and change are what makes life exciting and fun, but it can also be really terrifying.
So, why do some people never seem to grow or change?
Here are some of the most common reasons people stay stuck.
Recognize and Cope With Your Spouse’s Passive Aggressive Behavior
What is Passive-Agressive Communication? Passive-aggressive, just like many other psychiatric terms, has become a label used in everyday speech....
The Relationship Advice That No One Gave Us
What kind of relationship advice were you given?
Most of us were not taught anything, and others received really, just… bad advice.
Women especially got an extensive list of how to be desirable to a man—as if the goal is to just snag any Tom, Dick or Harry that showed even the slightest smidgen of interest—oh joy!
Honestly, when it comes to relationships, most people are like a litter of puppies, sweet and innocent with their lack of awareness, nosing around with their eyes sealed shut, moved by instinct yet completely unaware of what is really going on.
Here’s the advice we should have been told about relationships—advice you’re never too old to learn.
Communication Problems? 7 Tips to Better Communication in Your Marriage
Does it sometimes feel like your spouse is from another planet? That the two of you speak totally different languages? That’s actually not so far from the truth.
A close-up of a couple embracing, with a focus on a hand displaying an engagement ring. Soft, romantic atmosphere.
People of all genders do have different ways of communicating. To remedy communication problems, those differences will have to be overcome.
Still, it probably feels like both of you are completely clueless about how to even approach this issue. What, then, can you do? Are you just doomed to being horrible communicators? – I assure you, it’s not that hopeless.
What if a Struggling Couple Doesn’t Go to Therapy?
If you feel like your relationship is falling apart you have two choices: The first is to ignore what’s happening, cross your fingers and hope it gets better.
The second is to go to couple’s counseling.
These decisions are not created equally, however. One leads to a much better outcome than the other. Here’s what happens if your relationship is falling apart… and you choose to do nothing.
Reach out to start your healing journey today