To be successful at something takes dedication and hard work, and relationships are no different. Contrary to what some may believe, couples therapy is not just for couples on the brink of separation or for those going through a challenging time. Couples therapy is for happy couples too!
Why would happy couples seek counseling, you ask? The answer is that couples counseling can help couples take their relationship from good to great. Maybe all that’s needed is a tuneup. Or, perhaps the two partners need to see their relationship from an outside perspective. Whatever the reason, many working professionals today who are in relationships use couples counseling to take their relationship to the next great level. After all, we hire trainers at the gym, business coaches for work, and nutritionists for healthful eating… why wouldn’t we go to therapy to make our relationship the best it can possibly be?
How Couples Therapy Can Benefit Happy Couples
Couples in a healthy relationship can use therapy preventatively. It’s a place to identify problem areas before they become problems. When both partners are happy together, but small annoyances are starting to pop up, the therapy office is a safe space to nip these irritants in the bud and talk about them before they take your relationship from great to just so-so.
Create a vision for your future together. Who says therapy can only be used to work out “problems” or “issues”? Couples therapy is a chance to get on the same page and create a shared vision for your future together, both as individuals and as a couple. For example, where do you see yourselves in one year? Two years? Five years? And most importantly, how can you support one another and work together to get there?
Talk about unresolved issues that have been kept secret or buried. When two partners love each other deeply, they can keep old hurts or resentments buried. But even when done with the best of intentions, this will hurt the relationship in the long run. A licensed professional can help you to talk about unresolved wounds in language that is non-accusatory and non-hurtful. If you feel hesitant to go this deep into your relationship, remember that resolving the unresolved is likely to bring you closer than ever.
How Couples Therapy Can Support All Relationships
Improve communication. We’ve all heard the saying, “It’s not what you said but how you said it”, and couples therapy is the place to go to discover the importance of communication and to improve communication skills. Use couples counseling to identify strengths and weaknesses and discover areas where each of you can improve communication.
Increase intimacy. Intimacy is much more than just physical contact. Intimacy requires emotional closeness. Even couples that feel they are doing well, love each other greatly, and are on the right track have seasons where they feel less emotionally and sexually connected. Therapy will teach you tools and techniques to increase intimacy so you never have to feel like you’re living with “just a roommate”.
Learn to resolve conflict. All couples argue, but the way in which they argue and the extent to which they argue will vary. Any good couples therapist will tell you that the most successful relationships are not those without conflict, but rather those where conflict is resolved in a healthy way. If you are in a relationship where fighting without resolution, or fighting with meanness or condescension exists, chances are you and your partner will greatly benefit from seeing a couples therapist. Couples therapy is an opportunity to resolve conflict in a way that brings you closer together, rather than pushing you farther apart.
Our offices at The Relationship Therapy Center are located in Roseville and Fair Oaks, CA. Contact us today for a phone consultation or to book your first therapy appointment.
Other Services offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:
In addition to couples counseling, Our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. We will discuss the importance of self-care and emotional support to help you cope and to discover ways to find healthy ways of dealing with stress.
Couples counseling can be beneficial, with the right therapist. Our compassionate therapists are trained to walk you through the process and help you find healing and peace. Please contact our therapy office to learn more about the many ways we can help you and your loved ones heal, grow, and love healthy.