You might be surprised to learn that a marriage therapist can help you get through a divorce.
You’ve made the decision to end your marriage. This can be a confusing and anxiety-riddled time. Many people struggle for a long time after deciding to divorce. There is often the fear of an uncertain future. Besides anxiety, there is often a lot of grief following a separation or divorce.
A divorce might affect many areas of your life. You might call off from work more often because you are feeling lousy. Maybe you are distant from other family and friends. Your health might suffer because you are not sleeping well or going to the gym.
If your separation or divorce is full of acrimony, then it will likely make all of the above issues feel much worse. This is where divorce counseling comes in. A divorce counselor can help you end the relationship in a way that is healthiest for both of you.
If you know that your marriage is ending, divorce counseling is the way to go. The therapist can help both you and your ex untangle your lives and learn to cope post-divorce. Counseling can help you find closure. It can also be extremely helpful in situations where there are children involved.
Here are some of the other benefits of divorce counseling.
Be Better Prepared To Cope With Stress
For some people, a separation or divorce is the most stressful times in their lives. The future is uncertain and there are a lot of unknowns. How will you make ends meet on less money? Will you have to move out of your home? How will the kids handle it? What will your family and friends say? All of these questions can trigger worry. A divorce therapist can help you learn relaxation skills, such as guided meditation, to help you cope with stress.
Learn How To Effectively Co-Parent
A divorce will undoubtedly affect your kids. They might experience fear, anger, and disbelief. Going back and forth between two different homes might be a challenge for some kids. They might blame one parent for the divorce. There are so many ways divorce can impact kids. Fortunately, a divorce counselor can help you take steps to reduce the negative effect of the divorce on your children.
Get Rid Of Baggage
The last thing that you want to do is carry around baggage from your previous relationship to your new life. If you try to sweep this baggage under the table, it will resurface and pollute your life going forward. A divorce counselor can help you work through lingering negative emotions about the marriage. They can help you re-focus your energy on things that you enjoy and work towards a better life.
Learn How To Move On
After you have made the decision to divorce, you might be wondering “how do I move on from here?” “How do I adjust to life as a newly single person?” A divorce therapist can help you answer those questions and move in the right direction. They will teach you how to rediscover yourself.
Rob Evans, LMFT, LPCC is a psychotherapist with over 25 years experience helping men, women, families and couples improve their relationships with themselves and those around him in the Fair Oaks, CA area.