Co-Parenting Counseling

Divorce happens. Adult relationships end.

Your ex is the last person you want to see, but you share children together, so you don’t have a choice.
It is so hard to get along with your ex, but you have to for the sake of your children.
You worry about the impact of the divorce on your children
You want to put your feelings aside and take on somewhat of a “business-like” relationship with your ex, but you’re not sure where to start.
You’re not sure how to deal with your ex’s new partner.
You may have children together and have never been a couple but now need to co parent your child.

But, you can re-build a polite relationship with the other parent of your child and help your children navigate the challenges of having two households.

Co-Parenting After a Divorce or Separation Can Be Challenging

The goal of co-parenting is to get you as parents on the same page in regards to parenting your children. It is important to remember that your children did not ask for this divorce. They need to be able to love both their parents.

When you attend co-parent counseling in Roseville you are given the opportunity to learn how to cope with the challenges of parenting with your ex. You will work on resolving differences and conflicts so you can put your child’s needs first. Counseling isn’t about your personal agenda. It’s about working through your differences so that it feels as much like a win/win as a divorce or separation can. Tensions can be high while the divorce is being finalized. But, your children need to feel like they are being heard and they can grieve the loss of the family unit. Counseling will allow you to work on a plan to parent with your ex so you are able to focus your attention on your children during this challenging time.

Co-Parenting After a Divorce or Separation Can Be Challenging

Yes. It is Hard to Parent with Your Ex

Think about all the things you need to work through with your ex so you can parent together. There are likely different rules and different expectations at each house, and going back and forth from home to home can be challenging for children. They cope with the challenges okay, but they may also begin to have some challenging behavior.

Many children, especially teens, feel conflicted about what parent they should side with. This may be made worse if they hear too much adult information regarding the separation along the way. Some parents confide in their children, make them their best friend and share too much with them. Sometimes a parent will even try to alienate their children from the other parent.

Even intact families have differences in parenting. Going through a divorce just makes it even harder to negotiate with one another. With the help of a relationship therapist, you can find common ground on parenting issues and communicate in a calm and respectful way If you could communicate in a calm and respectful manner. Together with your therapist, you can create a co-parenting plan that meets the needs of everyone in your family.

“Co-Parenting is not a competition. It’s a collaboration of two homes working together with the best interest of the child at heart. Work for your kids not against them.”

Co-Parenting Counseling in the Fair Oaks Area Can Help You Learn to Parent with Your Child’s Other Parent.

Even if it seems like you can’t even stand each other anymore, co-parent counseling can help. Having a third party to help you resolve issues, learn how to compromise, stop fighting, and put your children first can make a real difference to you, your children, and any other people that are around you. It can even help you navigate challenging relationships with your ex’s family, potential new partners, and shared friends.

Co-parenting counseling is designed to help separated parents be parents. This isn’t about working on the relationship between the two of you anymore. Instead, we will help each of you figure out how to work together when parenting your children. Counseling is a safe space for you to communicate with each other. We want both parents to feel comfortable bringing up concerns and ideas regarding parenting their children.

During co-parenting classes or counseling sessions, we will address a variety of topics that may be causing you stress. This could be about shared parenting, a flexible schedule, negotiating days and times when you have your children, or ways to be more consistent with rules and discipline. Step-parents and new partners should also agree to uphold the rules and discipline methods that you decide upon in counseling. It’s important that both parents understand that it is harmful to talk badly about the other in front of the children. This can be especially challenging for many partners. We use the evidence based, “Between Two Homes” program that will include a book and workbook for both of you.

With the support of an experienced therapist, you can learn how to navigate this challenging time. You can come to better understand what your children might be going through. You can help them navigate this transition. Though separation and divorce are never easy, counseling can help you transition into co-parenting more effectively with your ex.

Online Co-parenting counseling in California

Our Therapists understand that it is hard for some separated or divorced couples to be in the same place, especially at first. And it can be even harder to coordinate schedules for each parent and the children. Therefore, Relationship Therapy Center offers convenient online co-parenting counseling to individuals who are both physically located in the state of California. With online co-parenting counseling you will still receive the same high-quality support as you would in-person. But, you can work through the challenges of co-parenting with your ex in a way that is best for your relationship and your schedules.

Common Questions Regarding Co-parenting Counseling:

How do I get my ex to come to counseling?

If you are on speaking terms with your ex, you might just bring it up in conversation. Reference to how this will help your children. Stress that this isn’t about rehashing the marriage issues. Counseling will help you ensure everyone’s needs are met, especially your children’s.

If you’re not speaking, you might want to email or write a letter. But, please contact your ex directly, do not go through the children. You can give him/her our information and remind them that we offer a free consultation for them to learn more about co-parent counseling.

I can’t even imagine us being in the same room together. Can co-parenting counseling really help us?

There are no guarantees that this won’t be uncomfortable at first. But, our skilled marriage therapists provide a safe space for you to communicate with your ex. There won’t be yelling, name-calling, or accusations.

*If there was abuse in your marriage, we suggest you attend individual counseling. precaution we would agree on is if there has been abuse in the marriage.

Begin Co-Parenting Counseling in the Sacramento Area:

You and your ex are no longer together. Now that the relationship has ended, it is time to learn how to co-parent. Counseling can help. Our team of marriage therapists are ready to help you resolve issues and improve communication so you can focus on meeting the needs of your children. To begin counseling in the Sacramento Area, please follow these three steps:

Contact our counseling office to get more information about co-parent counseling and schedule a free consultation.
Make an appointment with one of our skilled relationship therapists.
Find harmony with your ex as you learn to co-parent your children.

Co-Parenting Counseling in the Sacramento Area

Other Services offered at The Relationship Therapy Center in California:

In addition to co-parent counseling, Our Sacramento area counseling clinics located in Roseville and Fair Oaks, CA are pleased to offer a variety of mental health services. Our couples services include: Counseling after infidelity, sex therapy, co-parent counseling, family therapy, divorce counseling, intensive couples retreats, and premarital counseling. Our individual therapy services include, therapy for children, teen therapy, depression treatment, and individual relationship counseling. Our therapists offer online counseling in California to treat a variety of mental health concerns. Please reach out to our Sacramento area therapy office to learn more about the many ways we can help you or your loved ones heal and grow.

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