One of the most important skills everyone should learn is the art of being a great listener. From a young age we learn to express ourselves in lots of different ways both verbal and non-verbal. Learning to listen is a lifetime learning process. Thanks to the work of Dr. John Gottman and The Gottman Institute, there is now a few basic guidelines to help you practice this important skill.Read More
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Counseling, in general, has its own naysayers and critics; that is just part of being in the mental health field. Couples Counseling has its very own set of stereotypes, or myths that creep in, some from movies or other media, others from friends and family. Most stick in the minds of people, keeping them from seeking the assistance they may need to move their relationship in a positive and rewarding direction.
What are these stereotypes? Here is a quick look at seven of the most common myths and what the real truth is. You decide which ones you may have been leaning toward.Read More
When standing next to your partner feels lonelier than standing by yourself.
Your relationship is on a drastic downward slide. The signs are everywhere. Lack of communication. Loss of interest in sex. No physical interactions. Loneliness. Confusion. Questions with no answers. Angry words. Or worse, no words at all.
You have tried relationship counseling, but your partner does not show up, puts little to no effort forth and has seemingly moved on. That is when you know your reality. Acknowledging the your epiphany that you have always known but are finally ready to see. The only thing that you can change is how you interact and react with your partner. The only thing you can control in your relationship, is you.Read More
No matter what your job entails, making time for one another is essential to maintaining your relationship.
For some women and men who own their own business or are in the upper echelon of a company, we are busy. Seemingly all of the time. And then some. We want to succeed in our jobs, support our family and ourselves, get to school events, networking events, family events. Oh, and yourself. We try not to forget a single thing. Is business going well? Check. Maintaining a position that has been worked for? Check. Meeting expectations for your family as a whole? Check. And the list goes on. But there is a nagging feeling, that feeling that you get on the ride to your office or as you are firing up your computer to start your day. Suddenly, in the middle of a meeting with your associates or meeting with a new client at a networking event, it hits you. Square in the jaw. Right in the pit of your stomach. You realize that there are two things that you are forgetting to put your energy into. Your marriage and your spouse.Read More
If you are planning your wedding, probably envision you and your spouse living happily ever after. With the excitement of a wedding, it is hard to imagine anything else. However, once the excitement wears off, you realize that marriage is far more difficult than you had imagined. sharing your life with another person can be a challenge. Marriages take love, commitment and respect to work. A marriage based on these things doesn’t just happen. It is something that you have to build. To build a successful marriage, you must first know what things make up a happy marriage. Here are some important keys to make your marriage a lasting one.Read More
There are many different types of couples therapy. And, not all therapy is created equal. Some therapeutic modalities or practices are based on scientifically-proven techniques. These are called evidence-based therapies and they have been proven to work. One such kind of therapy is called The Gottman Method.
Here at the Relationship Therapy Center, we are proud to use the Gottman Method in couples therapy. Here is a breakdown of the Gottman Method and what you can expect.Read More
You are ready to get help, but your partner refuses. What can you do?
Are you and your partner having marriage problems? Maybe your husband refuses to get a job after being laid off for six months. Your boyfriend of five years gets angry over the smallest things. If it weren’t for these things, you’d have a great relationship. But, you can't get past them. You're ready to get help. However, your partner refuses to go to therapy. The good news is that if your partner will not budge, all is not hopeless. Here are some tips.Read More
Creating a happy, lasting relationship should be something that you are focused on right from the start. The way to do that is through premarital counseling. Maybe you think that premarital counseling a waste of time. You could be thinking “do we really need counseling if we are not having a religious ceremony?” The answer is a resounding yes!Read More
The word “narcissist” gets casually thrown around a lot. Maybe a co-worker uses the word to describe a particularly demanding boss. The media often use the word to talk about a self-centered actor or politician. To make matters even more confusing, a person who has a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can be quite charismatic and likable — at least on the surface. So, how do you know if you are dealing with a person who might have narcissistic personality disorder? Here are some classic signs of narcissistic personality disorder.Read More