One of the most important skills everyone should learn is the art of being a great listener. From a young age we learn to express ourselves in lots of different ways both verbal and non-verbal. Learning to listen is a lifetime learning process. Thanks to the work of Dr. John Gottman and The Gottman Institute, there is now a few basic guidelines to help you practice this important skill.Read More
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Counseling, in general, has its own naysayers and critics; that is just part of being in the mental health field. Couples Counseling has its very own set of stereotypes, or myths that creep in, some from movies or other media, others from friends and family. Most stick in the minds of people, keeping them from seeking the assistance they may need to move their relationship in a positive and rewarding direction.
What are these stereotypes? Here is a quick look at seven of the most common myths and what the real truth is. You decide which ones you may have been leaning toward.Read More
One of the hardest decisions many people face in their entire lives is whether or not to end a relationship. It is never an easy decision, no matter which way it ends up. There are often big issues at play that keep an individual from making the decision for weeks, months, and sometimes even years. The indecision itself can breed even more issues.Read More
If you find that infidelity has- or is- affecting your marriage, seeking a therapist and couples therapy is where the repairation can begin.
Picture this. White brides dress and tuxedo of the groom, perfectly altered. The colors of the bridal party dresses and groomsmen tuxedos perfectly accented by colors of the flowers in bouquets and corsages, alike. The countless hours spent picking the perfect venue, invitations, music, food and guest list have all pulled together, perfectly. The day is here. Your wedding day. You are ready to say, I do, to a life you have envisioned with your spouse. Bells are ringing in perfect sync and your future is bright. But what happens after this picture-perfect day? You may be ready to handle any curve balls thrown your way, batting them out of the park together. As a couple. As one. But what happens if your happily ever after is met with infidelity? Wait. You didn’t sign up for this. What if your perfect plan turns out to be less than perfect? With a divorce rate at an all-time high with infidelity being the reported main cause, how do you avoid being a part of the higher percentage? Can you recover from your spouses infidelity? Is this marriage worth trying to save? If the answer is a resilient, yes, seeking couples therapy is the best place to begin.Read More
Having sex when dealing with depression can be satisfying to you and your partner-- all that it takes is a little reinvention.
It is common for men and women to have sexual problems as a result of depression. The effects of any level of sexual dysfunction for men and women with depression can have a debilitating effect not only for you but also for your partner. There are psychological, physiological and pharmacological factors that can lead to changes in your sexuality and sexual relationship. The most common factors include side effects of some medications, being fearful that the inability to perform and/or satisfy your partner may cause rejection and a lack of desire. Be assured that if you and your partner work together, you can overcome your sexual obstacles and reconnect on many levels.Read More
Codependence often stems from behaviors that we learn in childhood. For instance, if you felt like your grades were never good enough for your parents, you might have bent over backward to get good grades even if it meant that you weren’t getting enough sleep because you had to study constantly. You are sacrificing your own needs (sleep) to please someone else (parents). Many people repeat the same pattern of behavior into adulthood.
Signs That You Might Be Co-DependentRead More
There are many different types of couples therapy. And, not all therapy is created equal. Some therapeutic modalities or practices are based on scientifically-proven techniques. These are called evidence-based therapies and they have been proven to work. One such kind of therapy is called The Gottman Method.
Here at the Relationship Therapy Center, we are proud to use the Gottman Method in couples therapy. Here is a breakdown of the Gottman Method and what you can expect.Read More
You are ready to get help, but your partner refuses. What can you do?
Are you and your partner having marriage problems? Maybe your husband refuses to get a job after being laid off for six months. Your boyfriend of five years gets angry over the smallest things. If it weren’t for these things, you’d have a great relationship. But, you can't get past them. You're ready to get help. However, your partner refuses to go to therapy. The good news is that if your partner will not budge, all is not hopeless. Here are some tips.Read More
Infidelity seems to be on the rise. According to researchers, the number of people who cheat has increased more than 40 percent since 1990.
An affair can quickly spell the end of an even seemingly happy marriage. However, an affair does not have to result in a divorce. Relationship therapists agree that it is possible to save a marriage after an affair. If both partners are willing to put in the hard work, there is hope for the couple. Here are some tips for surviving infidelity.Read More
Creating a happy, lasting relationship should be something that you are focused on right from the start. The way to do that is through premarital counseling. Maybe you think that premarital counseling a waste of time. You could be thinking “do we really need counseling if we are not having a religious ceremony?” The answer is a resounding yes!Read More